Living with chronic pain or illness can make it difficult to provide service, whether as a love language or as a kink — but not impossible. In this class, we will explore different strategies and tips for providing service while managing physical and emotional spoons. We will discuss how to prioriti...

What Holds the Holder is an intermediate to advanced workshop on aftercare for Dominants and those who carry power in BDSM dynamics. It focuses on the often-unspoken aftermath of holding authority and how to sustain dominance without depletion. This class addresses: • Dominant drop and delayed emo...

Is It Hypervigilance or Is It Anticipatory Service? This interactive discussion looks at the line between anticipatory service and trauma-driven hypervigilance. Have you ever packed for time with your D-type and tried to fit everything and the kitchen sink into one bag “just in case”? We will look a...

"I want to serve," names the pull, but not the mechanism underneath it. Two people who both say that phrase might be chasing completely different things: one wants the structure of clear tasks, another wants the charge of anticipating an unspoken need, another just wants to be useful enough to be ke...

When someone is willing to give you their everything, to entrust their life in your hands, how does that change communication? A good submissive is not suppose to talk back, right? This discussion will challenge a lot of the beliefs or thoughts around M/s relationships and how communication betwee...

Anticipatory service means predicting and fulfilling needs or solving problems before even being asked--without stepping on any toes. This term is commonly used in the hospitality industry and butlers' books. Explore the nuanced power exchange created when anticipatory service is offered, and how...

One of the most fantasized aspects of M/s relationships is formal white glove dinner service. In this class we take a deep dive into some of the traditions of formal dinner service as well as expectation setting for you and your guests. We will also discuss the logistics from meal planning and seati...

The Service Resume: Building From Desire Instead of Capability Most service offerings can start in the same place: skills. What can you do? What are you good at? What have you been trained to offer? This interactive discussion doesn’t start there. We will start with a harder & quieter question, and...

The Business of Sisterhood is an exploration of the development of familial ties in relation to Kink & Leather communities. We will discuss the historical sisterhoods in African-American communities. Also touch on the leather organizations that have bred sisterhood opportunities. We will specificall...